Totally unscientific and unsympathetic musings about teenage boys scoring...
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Remember Van Haylen's song? Remember the female teachers in the news who had sex with their teenage boy students - one couple even married after she got out of prison (Mary Kay Letourneau). The women were prosecuted as sex offenders - having had sex with a minor and all of that. That's okay - it's the law.
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Ask the boys though, and they might tell you they scored big time. Guys know that. Now think about teenage boys getting a bj from a teacher, a priest, a Christian Brother, a neighbor, a coach, a shopkeeper, or a candlestick maker... Yep - it's a sin and against the law - guys know that too.
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In my neighborhood there lived a Mexican guy named Ernesto, and then there was the young guy, Bob who owned the corner store - both guys had a reputation. Many of the boys in the neighborhood were frequent visitors. Most, if not all of those boys are now married with children. (Remember I grew up in a tough part of town.)
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I've just been thinking about all of this stuff while everyone seems to be jumping to conclusions as regards all of the scandals swirling around - especially the Betrone controversy that homosexuals are natural born pedophiles, and the other Spanish bishop who said some of the victims may have not been such victims after all. There may be some truth to that - then again - it can get pretty twisted as well.
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Though most people know that I consider any male to male sexual gratification to be 'gay' that does not mean I think all homosexually inclined men are pederasts or pedophiles. Not at all.
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Likewise, all children, boys or girls who have been abused do not automatically turn into abusers when they grow up - nor do they 'turn gay' if the contact was male to male. And early childhood sexualization (abuse) is much more traumatic than teenage sexual abuse.
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I think many good people are getting hysterical about this stuff right now and they are falling into rash judgement, detraction, and calumny. As is so often the case, alot of people do not know what the hell they are talking about.
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I'm just sayin'.
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On a related note:
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Western Confucian, Richard Dawkins, Pedophile Delusion H/T Enbrethiliel
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And our next class will be on Admitting Men With SSA to Religious Life, or What's Wrong With Fr. Scanlon?
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I'll be at adoration once again, I found out a nearby parish has adoration all day on Thursdays.
+JMJ+
ReplyDeleteThe Western Confucian just had a post about the confusion and hysteria that follow in the wake of these stories. Child molestation as the new witchcraft: if you're not 100% willing to burn the offenders at the stake, then you're one of them!!!
But you've probably already seen it, Terry. =)
You know I was just thinking about all the satanic sex abuse cases in the 80s that turned out to be garbage.
ReplyDeleteI agree.
ReplyDeleteI am waiting for the next class!:<)!
"As is so often the case, a lot of people do not know what the hell they are talking about."
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with that statement.
Not sure I agree entirely with Western Confucian's take, but there was some food for thought there, and there definitely is such a thing as mob hysteria.
Terry, thank you for telling it like it is.
ReplyDelete"they are falling into rash judgement, detraction, and calumny"== So, so true. I am really taken aback by the efforts of so many to "explain" the reason for the abuse--you know, as if there is some sort of rational explanation for the unforgivable crime of sexual abuse. Then, once we know, it will all stop.Hmmm, original sin just doesn't seem an adequate rationale for most. People don't seem able to understand abuse as a problem. Interestingly, Fr. Fitzgerald ) New Mexico) who treated priest abusers was concinced it was just that. The Church ignored his advice and sought all the "experts" instead. He wanted to send them to an island. Maybe we should start praying for his intercession. I think he had the right idea--penance and seclusion.
ReplyDeleteSorry--typo above--people dont seem able to understand abuse as a spiritual problem.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the link. A great post, yours.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much to everyone who prayed for me this past stressful week!! Everything turned out Marvelously!! I could really feel all of your prayers surrounding me like a warm fuzzy blanket.
ReplyDeleteI will remember all of you and your intentions at Adoration tomorrow (Friday)--will try to squeeze in some time at lunch :)
God Bless you all :)
Sara
Great news, Sara.
ReplyDeleteAnd thanks for your prayers!