One Mass, two forms.
Mark Shea published an excellent bit of advice from Tolkien for Traditionalist Mass goers - and of course, Ordinary Form Mass goers. [BTW, I consider myself a traditional Catholic, as if you didn't know. I attend the Ordinary Form of Mass - which is the ordinary norm of the Latin rite. I also deeply respect the Pope and Magisterium and strive to adhere to Catholic teaching. I frequent the sacraments, especially the sacrament of penance, when I fail.]
"Also I can recommend this as an exercise (alas! only too easy to find opportunity for): make your communion in circumstances that affront your taste. Choose a snuffling or gabbling priest or a proud and vulgar friar; and a church full of the usual bourgeois crowd, ill-behaved children - from those who yell to those products of Catholic schools who the moment the tabernacle is opened sit back and yawn - open necked and dirty youths, women in trousers and often with hair both unkempt and uncovered. Go to communion with them (and pray for them). It will be just the same (or better than that) as a mass said beautifully by a visibly holy man, and shared by a few devout and decorous people. It could not be worse than the mess of the feeding of the Five Thousand - after which our Lord propounded the feeding that was to come."
This really works. Especially if one can acquire the habit of recollection. Tolkien still comes off a little condescending when he says 'go to communion with them - and pray for them.' I would just say, 'pray with them' and leave it at that. It's what I've done for years, since no longer going to St. Agnes in St. Paul - which I believed for a time, was the superior parish for celebrating the NO according to rubrics. There is a snobbism which creeps in - no matter what, if one approaches Mass with that attitude. When I first left the monastery years ago, I couldn't stand parish celebrations of Sunday Mass. I got over it.They who truly adore God must adore Him in spirit and in truth.
To really prepare for Mass, to assist at Mass, to focus on Christ, the Holy Sacrifice, to adore and worship, while at the end, spending time in thanksgiving, everything is holy. Even during the chatter after Mass, one can remain recollected and at peace. Frequently it all becomes white noise, or during Mass, the sounds of children warms the heart. You no longer pay attention to how others dress or behave, much less attempt to consider who is worthy - or not - to receive the Eucharist. All of that is out of place for the worshipper. I've never felt the holiness of Mass more than after the long draught of not having Mass publicly, when we were able to go back, in smaller numbers. How holy and beautiful were the simplest Masses.There is one Mass in two forms, or uses. It is one Mass - the same Mass. We have one Faith, one Baptism, one Mass, one, holy, Catholic Church, and one reigning Pontiff as Vicar of Christ. That is not exaggerating his importance, nor is it papalatrous to believe that.
As regards exterior things, he (Editor: one who is attached to the grandeur and pomp of the EF) will become unable to dispose himself for prayer in all places, but will be confined to places that are to his taste; and thus he will often fail in prayer, because, as the saying goes, he can understand no other book than his own village. - S. John, Ascent