Sunday, April 19, 2015

When I die.

"Cosmo, I just want you to know, 
no matter what you do, you're gonna die."

I'll be dead.  DEAD!

When I die, I will have died.  I'll be dead.

"Terry died (fill in the date)."

"Hello?  Is Terry there?"
"No, he's not here - he's dead."
"Do you know where he is?"
"No we don't"
Do you know when he will be back?

"Passed" what?

Why do people say Cardinal George 'passed'?  Why does anyone use the term 'passed'?  Passed what?  A test?  Passed out?  Passed by?  Passed gas?  Passed 'Go'?

I know, I know, it's supposed to mean he passed on.  On to eternal life.  If you mean that - then say it - "George passed on to eternal life - we think."

We don't know where George is right now.  But we know he's dead.  Just say, Cardinal George died.  He's dead.

I think we have problems with death.  We are afraid of it.  We don't know how to talk about it so we make it nice.  We do that to everything.

"Oh poodle, he's in a better place."
"Up there."  Points to ceiling...

Don't make stuff up.

Just say dead.

I blame centering prayer
for this crap.


  1. Seriously I've been saying this on facebook for years! Just deactivated again can't listen to it - all this passing - passing what? wind - what?

  2. Well, at least we don't travel "over the rainbow bridge" as deceased pets do, according to my vet clinic.

  3. Hey, I like that term "deactivated." Cardinal George "deactivated." Although maybe now he's more active than ever like St. Therese.

    I sat with three people as they died: both my parents and my father-in-law. They did not pass me on the way out.There were some humorous elements in all three situations. (God is so good.) The funeral home came to get my mom's body (She was living with us when she died.) and wanted to know if they should leave the body bag unzipped. I thought it was a bizarre question, but I guess it really bothers some people. I just said, "I don't think she'll care."

    1. When my mom died in hospice I was there with my dad and the nurse, I was kneeling at her side but she didn't seem dead - she died really quietly and peacefully. My da said, "She's gone." I said, "No she isn't" for some reason that exact exchange went on for a few more times until the nurse intervened and said, "She's passed." Then me, "No she hasn't." "I'm sorry, she did." I remained calm through the whole thing and said again, "No. She didn't." Then the nurse held up a mirror and said - "There is no breath." I finally said, "Oh. She's dead. No one told me."

      I was an adult and no one said dead. I wasn't trying to make a point when I said 'no one told me' but now it makes sense.

    2. My mom died peacefully too; breathing one minute, then when my cousin said goodbye she exhaled. That was it.

  4. Who taught the dog how to meditate?

    I usually say people are dead although I believe I mentioned a cardinal shortage to you. My mom definitely died; one minute she was breathing then my cousin said goodbye and she exhaled for the last time.

    1. The dog learned at St. Olaf's downtown.

    2. That makes sense.

  5. "Passed gas" is what occurs to me when people say someone passed--and that makes me wonder why the event is worth mentioning. I like "gone to God" because it doesn't imply heaven--just the fate of us all, the facing of our particular judgment. "He's gone to his particular judgment"--that would be a good one too.

  6. If we believe, then he is risen!

  7. I totally agree on "passed"! One of the best homilies I ever heard was at the Cathedral in Green Bay, and the priest is talking about how we'll all die someday, 6 feet under, worms eating our flesh. If only we remembered!

  8. Best name ever for a funeral home:


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