Saturday, June 16, 2018

The Pope on the Nazi mentality in family planning.

Everyone is concerned about the family these days.

I like what the Holy Father said about the trend to selective abortion:
“I've heard that it's fashionable, or at least usual, that when in the first few months of pregnancy they do studies to see if the child is healthy or has something, the first offer is: let's send it away,” the pope said June 16, referring to the trend of aborting sick or disabled children. 
This, he said, is “the murder of children…to get a peaceful life an innocent [person] is sent away…We do the same as the Nazis to maintain the purity of the race, but with white gloves.” 
“It's an atrocity but we do the same thing,” he said, according to Italian media. - CWR
We do the same thing.

No one wants an old guy like me to comment on family life.  

As a single, old man, no one is interested in my take on modern family problems, which is so influenced by popular culture and media, and so intent upon prosperity and luxury.  Old people are a drain on the economy and a waste of space for many today.

A new, state-of-the-art day care opened across the street from me, in the old church which has been completely rehabbed.  Big SUV's pull up, parents with infants and toddlers, who are dropped off to be cared for by strangers.  It's a Spanish immersion facility and all the care attendants are Latina.  (What a contrast with how immigrant children facilities are at our southern border - but that's another story - although the irony is not lost on me.)

Without detailing my reaction to the center, and after experiencing harsh criticism by parents in the neighborhood for objecting to the playground design of the center, which is directly across the street from my house, I have come to realize I'm on the wrong side of everything when it comes to American parenting.

That said,  I can only imagine what kids who are dumped in daycare from infancy, no matter how up-scale the facility and well trained the workers, will turn out. The daily routine of play and care provided by strangers, exposed to other kids and habits at such an early age, and separated from parents, it must have some effect.  Therefore, the experience of being semi-institutionalized from infancy just may account for gender identity problems and other  disturbances and disorders, which seem on the increase generation after generation.

I remember when I was in school we were told how bad the Soviets were for taking children from their parents to be raised/educated by the state.  Daycare seems to me a modern equivalent on some level - kind/sorta.  On a neighborhood site I simply expressed my incredulity that only weeks old infants are left at daycare, subsequently I was attacked by several parents - women and men - calling me ignorant and that I should mind my own business. I looked up the profiles of those people, they are fashionable young couples who have nice houses, nicer cars, great jobs, most likely gym memberships, along with other expenses - therefore they need to work to make daycare costs of $1400- per month, per child.

Nazi poster:  "60000 RM. This is what this person 
suffering from hereditary defects costs
 the Community of Germans during his lifetime. 
Fellow Citizen, that is your money, too."

Back to the point of this post, but it is no wonder modern families wouldn't want a sick or disabled child to mess up their life.  The Pope is right on the Nazi mentality thing.  BTW - if you want another clarification on Amoris, read this:

The pope, the paper reported, said it is “painful” to think that society would accept the killing of children simply because they are sick or disabled, but this is the current mentality. 
On the family, he noted that in modern society “one speaks of different types of family,” defining the term in different ways. “Yes, it's true that family is an analogous word, yes one can also say 'the family of stars,' 'the family of trees,' 'the family of animals,'” he said, but stressed that “the family in the image of God is only one, that of man and woman…marriage is a wonderful sacrament.” 
Turning to his 2016 post-synodal apostolic exhortation Amoris Laetitia, Pope Francis said that some have reduced the document to “you can, you can't,” referring to the debate surrounding access to the sacraments for the divorced and remarried in the document's eighth chapter.
“They have understood nothing,” he said, explaining that his exhortation “does not hide problems,” but goes beyond mere case studies. To understand the text, he said, one must read chapter four on the spirituality of everyday life, which he said is the “is the core” of the document. - CWR

Something is wrong with modern families, no doubt, but they don't want to be told anything they don't want to hear.  My mother had to work when I was little because my dad was always in trouble or between jobs.  I remember being dropped off at daycare and it was a bit traumatic at first, but it was a family situation - home daycare provided by a neighbor.  I adjusted rather well I suppose.  I just can't imagine leaving infants and babies to be cared for by strangers.


  1. One of my DILs recently announced her pregnancy. She is older so of course they do the obligatory tests for Down syndrome. She told me this like she said they were checking her blood pressure. I felt like asking - and what exactly would you have done if the babies (it's twins!) had been diagnosed with DS. But I was too afraid to have that conversation because I already know the answer. As for daycare - I've worked with girls who say they "can't stand being at home all day long with the kids." Then why did you have them???

    1. Actually that is my response - why have kids if you can't take care of them. I know I sound pretty extreme but women and men want to have it all these days and I would say nanny care and daycare is an example of living beyond one's needs and missing out on the formative years of their children. An infant, only a couple of weeks/months old dropped off at daycare seems so sad for me.

      People will say the working poor have no alternative - they need to work and so the kids need to be taken care of. I recognize that many mothers need to do that, but the thing about the place across the street from me is that the poor could not afford it. It's too bad the faith is being lost and that women and men are no longer interested in religious life, daycare would be an excellent apostolate for religious.

      It will become more and more selective and utilitarian - daycare providers will only charge more for disabled children, if they are still allowed to be born. Somehow I think parents are giving away their parental rights as we demand more and more convenience and freedom to do whatever we please with our time and our life. Contraception is the mother of that mindset.

  2. Excellent post. You are 100% right.

  3. I have seen this from the viewpoint of my generation and now as a Grandparent. My wife and I juggled schedules to be the only caretakers of our three children. In retirement we now are caretakers for three Grandchildren at age 66 three days a week ages five and under. As parents we sacrificed on vacations, cars a better home etc. to have time raising our children. It was not easy, but it was worth it. As Grandparents we give up time, flexibility to travel, and a lot of energy. I would have it no other way.
    We are not a family friendly society despite all the political empty slogans about family values. It takes two working parents to make even a subsistence living for a majority of couples. Low wages, health insurance, child costs etc are way higher then when I was raising mine. In addition the cost of modern technology that has become standard in every home is well costly. Phones, big screen tv's, designer clothes, techno toys etc. No one thinks about delaying purchases or forgoing these material things. I think the days for religious to run these type of facilities is gone forever. If I were yong again I would look to some of the innovative communal living and child care groups spotting up here and there. Shared housing is a movement. I do not mean hippie communes that we knew or. cult groups, but real shared yet independent groups sometimes attached to a community sometimes not. Anyway, I feel for your rich neighbors who are daily multitasking with jobs, career and children. Usually with tending to their own parents too. The Lord has blest us with plenty but we always want more. I see the examples around my neighborhood too. The store, the school, the library. I see parents on phones and children unattended to all the time. The one place I do not see them is in Church on Sunday.

    1. Wallace, my brother, God bless you for caring for your grandchildren. I worked at an inner-city middle school a few years back. I would say that easily 95% of the children were being raised in single-parent households, usually with their mothers. They had no stable home life to speak of. The mothers worked odd hours and often the children were left to fend for themselves. There was seldom an adult male in the picture, and if there was, it was never the same man for long.

      Outside of the very few children who lived with both parents, the very luckiest children were being raised by their grandparents, who insisted on proper manners, clean clothes, good grades, proper rest, and nutritious food.

      I well remember one boy in 7th grade, well over 6 feet tall, who had been caught in the hall when he should have been in class. The principal sent him home for the day and asked me to call home to have someone come and get him. When she left the room, this poor boy *begged* me not to call his granny. I told him I had to do it. He paced until granny got there.

      When granny arrived, I saw she barely cleared 5 feet tall. She was dressed as many African-American ladies dress for church - dress, matching hat, high heels, etc. She walked up to me and apologized for her grandson's behavior and said it would not happen again, and that she regretted any disruption he caused. Then she spun around. The boy was already on his feet. She looked straight up at him, shook her finger at him, and ordered him to walk into the hall - she said she did not want me to have to listen to what she had to say to him. We never had another problem!

      A very blessed Father's Day to you, Wallace, and all our brothers who are fathers, Godfathers, grandfathers, priests, or who act as a father figure!

  4. A neighbor babysat me when I was little. Mom stayed home until I was 3, then I was at the neighbor at 4 all day and 5, for the afternoon after kindergarten. I wasn't traumatized but it wasn't really daycare, just me, playing with a friend who I met when I was so little, I don't remember meeting him.

  5. This comment has nothing to do with daycare but with childcare. Almost 99% of those that I have met/know with newborns, carry them around in car seats. They don't carry them in their arms anymore. The children are rarely allowed to be passed around to the granny types at the office or anywhere else. Because these children are always in their car seats or cribs (unless they are doing "tummy time") the backs of their heads are getting flat. I kid you not.

  6. You'll be happy to learn that my big Asian family carried kids around, as do people at my church. We've had families with small children visiting family in the area lately, so plenty of babies.

    My friend complained last week that people are criticizing her parenting as her 11 mo old doesn't want to be held, preferring to be put on the floor so he can crawl. And it's way too jot right now.

    1. An 11 month old should be crawling and exploring! Good work, mama!


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