Not too hard to find.
This weekend I came across a notice of the death of a man I knew from church. He attended daily Mass, he was a sacristan and lector, he attended devotions and events at the parish, and he was active in many charities. A retired teacher, he lived around the corner from me with his partner who died about ten years ago. Later he moved into a condo, and just a year or two ago I heard that he signed himself into a home for Alzheimer's patients. Today is his funeral Mass.
We weren't really friends, we just said hello and chatted. I think he wanted to be friends but I kept a distance because I knew he was more 'liberal' about being gay and Catholic. He would have no problem identifying with gay, and I expect he'd fit right in with Fr. James Martin's POV on the subject. He would agree that people are born that way and nothing is wrong with same sex unions. I had great respect for him, but it has always been my experience that once people knew my POV, they more or less shunned me as too narrow, and/or tried to convince me I would be happier if rejected all of that. I wanted to be friends, but he pretty much left me alone. When he moved away, he became more active at a more liberal parish where his priest-friend helped out at in Minneapolis.
Despite our differences on Catholic teaching - which I would never have tried to 'covert' him to - he was a good man, a much better man than myself. (I really mean that.) He was generous and as I mentioned, very active in the parish and devoted himself to very real charitable works which demanded sacrifice. I mention him today because he is receiving a Catholic burial - as he should. The surprising thing about that is his obituary mentions he was preceded in death by certain relatives and his 'life-partner'. In some places, that note alone would have caused some priests or parishes to refuse him a Catholic burial. Thank God that is not how this diocese treats people.
I was so pleased this did not happen to my friend/acquaintance/neighbor who just died. Rest in peace BD. May his soul and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.
I wish I had accepted his friendship.