I'm stepping back from the LGBTQ Bridge Building project.
I think it was Dawn Eden who connected PTSD to the effects of childhood sexual abuse in adults. I've always shied away from using a term like that, since I'm unwilling to diminish the meaning of the disorder for survivors of very severe trauma, such as suffered by wounded vets, victims of torture, and so on. Nevertheless, there are aspects of PTSD which may be attributed to psychological trauma caused by abuse and other negative experiences. Maybe that's what is wrong with me.
I always step into it when I write about gay-ssa-lgbtq crap. It is crap, let me tell you. Even as I read supportive books and articles - supportive of leaving gay behind and promoting Catholic teaching, offering encouragement for one who has spent many decades integrating oneself into the sacramental life of the Church, it is difficult to deal with all the 'talk' which surrounds it. You want to move on but the controversy can pull you down. For me it's like always talking about exorcism and exorcists and demonology and possession - when you handle pitch you get dirty. Frequently, those engaged in ministry - on either side of the issue can make mistakes and exceed established boundaries when reaching out to others.
You get accused too. You get talked about. You get labeled and summarily dismissed. You carry that weight even though your shoulders have been freed of the burden. Remember Lot's wife? I have to remember her. She turned to watch the Sodomites perishing, while Lot made it across the bridge. She got stuck there - and turned to stone. I don't want to go back on that bridge, much less look back.
There are many good people online to help others discern the truth about homosexuality and authentic Catholic teaching - there are also crackpots who deviate from Catholic teaching. I have nothing to offer anyone on the subject, except to direct people to the Catechism of the Catholic Church and documents on the subject at the Congregation of the Doctrine of the Faith. Courage Apostolate is the best resource for how to integrate oneself into the sacramental life of the Church, as well as the best support for living a chaste, celibate, holy life in obedience to God's will. One can join a Courage chapter, or simply use the resources offered by Courage. The Church is enough - the sacraments and spiritual direction in confession or outside the sacrament, prayer and fidelity to the duties of one's state in life is sufficient for salvation. A Catholic, no matter what his background, should be able to be accepted and able to fit into the ordinary parish community. One can always trust the Church but remember her ministers are only human and sometimes over-compensate and err on the side of caution, or worse, permissiveness. Men will always dissappoint you. Christ is for you and is faithful - even when we or his ministers are not.
That's all I need to say.
The Crucifixion by Altichiero da Zevio c.1380 Detail.
The angels take the soul of the 'good thief'.
The Cross is a denial of self, but in service to the will of God himself who makes life come from death and empowers those who trust in him to practise virtue in place of vice.
To celebrate the Paschal Mystery, it is necessary to let that Mystery become imprinted in the fabric of daily life. To refuse to sacrifice one's own will in obedience to the will of the Lord is effectively to prevent salvation. Just as the Cross was central to the expression of God's redemptive love for us in Jesus, so the conformity of the self-denial of homosexual men and women with the sacrifice of the Lord will constitute for them a source of self-giving which will save them from a way of life which constantly threatens to destroy them.
Christians who are homosexual are called, as all of us are, to a chaste life. As they dedicate their lives to understanding the nature of God's personal call to them, they will be able to celebrate the Sacrament of Penance more faithfully and receive the Lord's grace so freely offered there in order to convert their lives more fully to his Way. - Letter to Bishops 1986