See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient with it until it receives the early and the late rains. - James 5:7

Friday, September 28, 2012

Couples who share household tasks... not so happy.



I knew that!

Anyway - another new study folks!  It says that when the husband dresses up in the wife's housedresses and does the vacuming, it may threaten the marriage.  What?  That's not what the study said? 

Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.

“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.

The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.

“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.

The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” he went on.

The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves.

“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” he suggested.

“There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.”

But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of “modern” couples rather than the chores they shared.

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. “In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.

They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said. Norway has a long tradition of gender equality and childrearing is shared equally between mothers and fathers in 70 per cent of cases. - Source
Oh.

So see?  See how important gender is?  See how important it is to be man and wife.  See how critical it is for men not to do housework?  No wonder kids are so screwed up. 


 

9 comments:

  1. Now I'm worried about you, Terry. Who in the world does your housework??! :/

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    1. Don't worry, I do it. If I was married I wouldn't though.

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  2. Look, I have sole possession of the vacuum and it's staying that way. Are we clear?

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    1. Then if you get married it will end in divorce.

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    2. Btw doughboy, where did you get your image from? It's beautiful.

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  3. +JMJ+

    My friend Bob's analysis is that women's idea of "equality" is getting to share the good parts of being a man and the bad parts of being a woman. So women agitate for cushy office jobs, but never care to be coal miners or the like, and still think it's "fair" for the man to split the housework. Even if he is the coal miner. =P

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  4. Mercury: it's a mosaic in the vestibule at the Cathedral Basilica of St. Louis. http://cathedralstl.com/intro/

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  5. The findings of this study are kinda old news. For almost 30 years now this sort of thing has been found in social science research on marriage. The findings are pretty consistent: those with more traditional attitudes toward the roles of husbands & wives report happier marriages and are more likely to stay married. I don't know why it still surprises people...probably because those who advocate sameness between males & females aren't too adept at the reality check thing, so they keep studying it, keep finding the same results, and keep reporting it with much shock and surprise. Then they study it again because they can't believe it. Of course, it always turns out the same.

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