I thought it was important to try to be funny and comment about everything everyone else was writing about - which meant writing about sensational Catholic news items and chit chat by bloggers I had never heard of before. Then I thought it was almost required to be as scathing - or snarky - as possible. (The honesty's too much!) I'd discuss people I didn't even know - their private lives made public in and through their writings - as if it was my duty, my job, and my right to do that. Thoughtful readers would help me out and email me more resources and links to 'background checks' which provided more information to round out the detraction. Oddly enough, I thought it necessary to voice an opinion about how the archdiocese as well as individual parishes were run - despite the fact I had no real inside information - just hearsay and gossip.
A few years ago a friend pointed out that someone on a forum asked, "Who is Terry Nelson anyway?"
Nobody. Terry Nelson is nobody. I have comments to prove it too.
One of the very best comments I ever received was from someone who reads me all the time - but obviously doesn't like me - I save comments such as these to review now and then. People who write them think I remove them because I don't want to be criticized, there is some truth in that of course, but I prefer to remove them to avoid other readers possibly coming to my defense. Although I often save such comments, I originally began saving them as a sort of 'evidence gathering' exercise - which made no sense, until I realized they are better than awards or compliments. How often do people tell us what we would rather not hear? How often do we experience how others actually perceive us?
Anyway - the following comment is one of my favorites:
Do you always slather on so much venom with your alleged good advice, and isn't it sort of ironic, coming from you, a stranger on the internet who blogs and sells homoerotic art, claims to know everything about everything all the time? - Anonymous
Stay tuned for the Abbey Roads Christmas Special!