Aside from a lack of faith.
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I was reading Fr. Z's post regarding wedding
stipends or
stole fees to the priest witnessing a marriage ceremony in a Catholic church. Fr. Z suggested that $100 dollars is not an excessive
'stole fee' given to the priest in appreciation for his services. Father indicated it could be more. Ordinarily this offering would be on top of that given for the use of the church, the music director's fees, and if servers are used - tips for the altar boys. It dawned on me that young people, who can be somewhat apathetic about religious services in general, not to mention conventional etiquette, may not want to bother with such formalities. I'm not just talking about the unchurched kids of fallen away Catholics either. College kids and young urban professionals, although they or their families could afford it, may not want to bother with the added expense of a church wedding. What I'm trying to say is that a lot of unmarried couples use the money angle as an excuse either not to marry at all, or to opt for a simple civil ceremony. (I have no idea what civil fees amount to.)
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Anyway - when I first read the post, a fee of $100 or more seemed a bit steep to me. (I've never been married and so the practice of paying the celebrant never even occurred to me.) I checked around however and it does appear a stipend reflecting the level of
grandiosity for the wedding extravaganza is expected, and $100 may indeed be on the cheap side.
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Normally, diocesan priests are salaried and housing is offered/provided by the parish or institution to which they are assigned, hence the priest does not necessarily live off the stipends received - unless he lives in the third world. So naturally I just assumed...
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I believe it is the responsibility of the bishop of the diocese to regulate matters concerning monetary offerings involving Mass stipends and the like. (Of course a Catholic is not expected to make an offering for the sacrament of penance, or the anointing of the sick, the blessing of sacramentals or other such things.) As to be expected, parishes are supported from regular offerings by the faithful through collections, donations, endowments and fundraising events. Each parish may be budgeted differently, but I'm quite certain a portion of the income received supports the priest and his residential requirements in addition to his salary. I might be wrong about that however.
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Regardless, the most important thing for non-practising Catholics and non-believers to understand is that the Mass and the sacraments are not for sale - Catholics do not pay for the sacraments - but we do provide support for our priests. Discussions about fees, stipends, offerings, and
'price-fixing' is one of the most misunderstood aspects of the Catholic Church for
'outsiders' and critics of the Church to pick up on. Very often lapsed Catholics and non-believers hear this stuff and convince themselves the Church is just after their money - we've all heard it. Unfortunately trying to defend the practice can sometimes make the priesthood sound like an ordinary career with a pay scale for different levels of service.
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Generally I think weddings are overdone anyway - they are usually much too extravagant and ostentatious.
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"All you who are thirsty, come to the water; You who have no money come, receive grain and eat; Come, without paying and without cost, drink wine and milk." - Isaiah 55:1
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Links:
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Pittsburgh - St. Paul's Cathedral Wedding Costs
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Edmond, OK - St. John the Baptist Wedding Costs.