Friday, September 25, 2020

When you find out two men live together, share a house ...

Don't judge.

“Those who cannot conceive Friendship as a substantive love but only as a disguise or elaboration of Eros betray the fact that they have never had a Friend. The rest of us know that though we can have erotic love and friendship for the same person yet in some ways nothing is less like a Friendship than a love-affair. Lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly ever about their Friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends, side by side, absorbed in some common interest. Above all, Eros (while it lasts) is necessarily between two only. But two, far from being the necessary number for Friendship, is not even the best. And the reason for this is important.

… In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. By myself I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all his facets… Hence true Friendship is the least jealous of loves. Two friends delight to be joined by a third, and three by a fourth, if only the newcomer is qualified to become a real friend. They can then say, as the blessed souls say in Dante, ‘Here comes one who will augment our loves.’ For in this love ‘to divide is not to take away.” - C.S. Lewis


  1. For me, Jesus and the Apostles are the best example of what you describe in this post.

    1. That is an excellent thought, Mr. H. It is always a mistake to judge anyone by appearances. A very good working friend of mine looks a bit dangerous - heavy raccoon makeup, teased hair, and suggestive clothing. But, in fact, she is an exemplary mother and daughter, who tenderly cares for her widowed mother and is both mother and father to her children, and has brought those children up to be outstanding adults. It is better to get to know those who God throws in our path, than to judge them without knowing their story. Peace to you, WH, and to our dear Terry.

    2. Susan, a long time you ago you encouraged me to blog. You can find my blog here:

    3. Angela - how wonderful!!! Once I finish writing this, I am going to your blog spot right away. I think it is vital for those of us who love our Catholic Faith, and who love one another, to support each other. If it is God's will, this may be a way to spread the Faith as well as holding each other up! Very best blessings and grace to you and all here!


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