We would remind people that it is the law of nature that all things must be of gradual growth. - Blessed John XXIII
Over the years, I've had a few friends who 'dropped out' of the Church. Some left because of bad example, others left because they felt unable to live up to the perfection fellow Catholics seemed to expect of them. As if they were expected to become saints overnight. Indeed, some even thought they had become saints, only to crash and burn when the bubble burst. Uber-Catholics, fiery apologists, traditional, orthodox - no longer...
Anyway, I came across the following from Dr. Alice von Hildebrand which really surprised me, coming from her, that is.
"The most we can do is to pray to be God’s instruments. To be an instrument we must strive to live the Gospel every day and in every circumstance. Only God’s grace can give us the desire and ability to do that.
It is one of the fears I have about traditional Catholics. Some flirt with fanaticism. A fanatic is one who considers truth to be his personal possession instead of God’s gift. We are servants of the truth, and it is as servants that we seek to share it.
I am very concerned that there are “fanatical” Catholics who use the Faith and the truth it proclaims as an intellectual toy. An authentic appropriation of the truth always leads to a striving for holiness. The Faith, in this present crisis, is not an intellectual chess game. For anyone not striving for holiness, that’s all it will ever be. Such people do more harm to the Faith, particularly if they are proponents of the traditional Mass. - Dr. Alice von Hildebrand
I also came across this...
"Salvation and justice consist not in the uprooting of an outdated system, but in a well designed policy of development. Hotheadedness was never constructive; it has always destroyed everything. It has inflamed passions, but never assuaged them. It sows no seeds but those of hatred and destruction. Far from bringing about the reconciliation of contending parties, it reduces men and political parties to the necessity of laboriously redoing the work of the past, building on the ruins that disharmony has left in its wake." - Pius XII's address to Italian workers, Rome, Pentecost, June 13, 1943