Seeking God? Or...
I worked in a Catholic bookstore for a few years where I met many fervent young people who felt called to religious life. The best of these more or less lived their lives as if they were already in the convent or monastery; devoutly assisting at daily Mass, praying the Liturgy of the Hours - including the little hours, practicing mental prayer, doing good works, and so on. Some of these really wanted to be a nun or a monk or a priest - the few who have persevered in religious life thus far, seemed to be the ones who wanted Christ alone.
I just heard of a young woman I met back then, who has since returned to secular life. She really wanted to be a traditional nun - and she was, for awhile. Nothing wrong with that - in fact it will most likely be a tremendous, formative grace for the rest of her life. Indeed, many who leave get married and raise beautiful families for God. Others, like me... well, never mind.
Prior to entering the community, several enthusiastic aspirants were toasted with going away parties - 'showers' or 'receptions' as it were. Unfortunately, not a few also carried the burden of large student loans to pay off. Many good people, friends and strangers, donated to help them do that. Although I always wonder if and when these young people do leave religious life, if they are obliged to reimburse the people, or the organization, that paid off their debts? Or is it like the wedding gifts a bride and groom keep, even after the marriage was annulled or the couple split up?
I'm just wondering, not condemning or judging - I'm just curious about what the etiquette is.
Nevertheless, it is most always true, vocation is a crises for those without one.
Incidentally, St. Clare left the world on Palm Sunday. She slipped away quietly and unnoticed - without a party or celebration. I've always liked that idea.