Marriage is a vocation... yadda, yadda, tadda ...
I know that already. Although, personally, I think it is ordinary life - one is either married or single - thus, for me the 'original' vocation is best described - and distinguished - by the Catechism:
2331 "God is love and in himself he lives a mystery of personal loving communion. Creating the human race in his own image . . .. God inscribed in the humanity of man and woman the vocation, and thus the capacity and responsibility, of love and communion."115 "God created man in his own image . . . male and female he created them";116 He blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and multiply";117 "When God created man, he made him in the likeness of God. Male and female he created them, and he blessed them and named them Man when they were created."118 - CCC
The Pharisees approached asked, "Is it lawful for a husband to divorce his wife?" They were testing him.
Yet like the Pharisees of old, many today question the whole concept of marriage and vocation, not a few seeking perhaps to justify themselves - for instance, in the single state. I say it like that because some people may not have the ability or generosity to commit themselves to follow a deeper call or vocation. I know! I'm sure that statement makes people mad - because some people make the excuse that they just can't find the right person to marry, or the right religious community to enter, or the right seminary to study in. Of course others may have legitimate impediments, and they ought to just let the question go. But I digress. My intention is to talk about marriage here.
So yeah, marriage is a vocation - when it is in accord with God's will of course. I'm not a theologian so I'm not attempting to define anything here - go to the Catechism for clear teaching on the subject.
Quite seriously, I see life more in terms of God's will, which I suppose is the same as his call - and that call originates in baptism - therein is vocation. So whatever state in life I find myself - I am single - I am called. The call exists within that context or state of being. Perhaps I am not saying it well, but, as I said in a comment on another post, personally I am not interested in hairsplitting definitions of vocation - and some people waste time and procrastinate doing that - it's a form of evasion.
Random: Divorce harms children.
Random: Divorce harms children.
I believe the married state is the normal, ordinary state most men and women are called to, priesthood is the highest call or vocation, religious life is essentially consecrated single life lived in community - it too is a well defined vocation. For those who are single, they too can consecrate their lives by fully living their baptismal vows - hence they can call it a vocation if they need too. Nevertheless, there is nothing wrong with ordinary life - as the Holy Family of Nazareth demonstrated. Christ was never married - which means he was single. Thus wouldn't it follow he sanctified single life? If you need a pedigree, add IAS after your name - I Am Single.
I'm not sure why we try so hard to define ourselves, or seek to complicate our lives by making ourselves more special than we already are: beloved sons and daughters of God, in and through Jesus Christ. I must be getting simple minded.
"Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate."
In Christ's time he spoke of a man issuing a decree of divorce, and although today's Gospel mentions the women suing for divorce, yet I think it wasn't all that common or easy for women to do so, since women had few, if any rights. Today it is completely different. Women have equal rights - which just may explain why so many Catholic bachelor-ettes want single life to be called a vocation. It also explains why there are a lot of divorces and annulments.
I had a friend who married a Guatemalan woman. They had kids and she went to school. She got a degree, got a job and adopted feminist attitudes towards marriage and reproductive rights. She left my friend and the kids and moved in with a woman. Similarly, not a few Catholic men have wives who left them because the husbands may have been too Catholic for them - in as much as the wife rejected Church teaching on contraception and abortion. Modern reasons for divorce are different today, and the petitioner of divorce has changed - Christ's teaching has not.
Divorce has undermined the sanctity of marriage for decades. Modern life and poular culture has as well - insofar as it has changed the mindset of people who prefer to be single rather than to be married; people who live together rather than be married; and those who divorce rather than accept the truth about marriage. I think such people undermine and help to redefine marriage as much as gay activists do.
Today's Gospel also explains why same sex marriage can't exist:
But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh. - Mark 10: 2-16
Works for me.
Disclaimer: I may be way off base here - so pay no attention to me and drop me from your reading list if you don't like what I say. Consult your Catechism and Scripture and Diocesan Tribunal instead of wasting your time with a blogging-busy-body, narcissistic hypocrite like me. Thank you.