Joan Cusak in "In and Out" - 'Is everybody gay?'
Confessions of a recovering lesbian* - Gay man happily married to a woman.
Chaste Gay-Catholics share their stories... and they all hang on to the gay.
I'm really trying to understand.
I have good friends who were gay and wanted a family, they met and fell in love with women, got married and passed for straight. Personally, I think they are straight - sure, they fell off the wagon once or twice, but like a dog who once tasted blood, they slipped up. Nevertheless, they have integrated their lives successfully, and have lovely families, and yes, their wives knew of their past and accepted them.
On the other hand, I have worked with and for numerous closet cases - married men who never were 'out' before marriage. These men could be quite wicked. Essentially, most of them were serial offenders - perhaps like a popular coach who has been in the news recently. Others spent their free time at parks and in restrooms, looking for anonymous, adult sexual contact.
But now things appear to be changing. Some lesbians and gay men renounce the homosex and marry and have families, while continuing to identify as gay - but their sexuality is re-oriented to, err, they live chastely according to their state in life, which happens to be heterosexual marriage, which then neutralizes the gay sex part... or something like that - but they can still appreciate a nice-looking...
Yep, that's normal.
How do you explain this to kids?
*I'm thinking this story is by Melinda Selmys - UPDATE: Nope. Not her. Melinda graciously cleared that up.