"I should like you to be free of all worries." - 1 Corinthians 7: 32
I came across a post on NFP. How To Ruin Your Marriage With NFP. I'm guessing it's a good post from the comments I read. Yes, I read the post.
I don't get it though - Natural Family Planning, that is.
It's the same as birth control as far as I understand it, only natural. Nevertheless, it seems rather clinical, and maybe a tad cerebral.
I have two friends who left the gay lifestyle and married, they have been married for years and years. One couple used contraception, the other something akin to NFP. However, the NFP couple used the practice not to limit or space the kids, but to find out when it was time to do it to make a baby. The couple who contracepted did it to space and to limit - they have two kids. (BTW - the men were fairly faithful over the years, occasional slip ups, but that's how it is with men.) The only complaints from the wives - that I know of - were from the Mrs. of the contracepting couple. She was disappointed with his performance. Both couples remain married despite all. I pretty much lost contact with them after the kids arrived - although I've kept in touch with the husbands - which is why I know what I know.
I suppose that has nothing to do with the NFP story, except to show how it can be used outside the contraceptive mentality. That said, it all seems very complicated to me. Fortunately, I've never had to worry about it.
I should like you to be free of anxieties... But a married man is anxious about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and he is divided... A married woman, on the other hand, is anxious about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. - 1 Corinthians 7And St Paul doesn't even mention what it's like if both spouses work, send the kids to daycare, etc..
I know the Church approves of NFP, so that's good.
Lest I mislead anyone because of my misunderstanding of what NFP is and is not, when in doubt, consult the Catechism of the Catholic Church. I declare and affirm that I am in agreement with all that the Catholic Church teaches regarding the regulation of birth by Catholic couples:
2368 A particular aspect of this responsibility concerns the regulation of procreation. For just reasons, spouses may wish to space the births of their children. It is their duty to make certain that their desire is not motivated by selfishness but is in conformity with the generosity appropriate to responsible parenthood. Moreover, they should conform their behavior to the objective criteria of morality:
2369 "By safeguarding both these essential aspects, the unitive and the procreative, the conjugal act preserves in its fullness the sense of true mutual love and its orientation toward man's exalted vocation to parenthood."157
- When it is a question of harmonizing married love with the responsible transmission of life, the morality of the behavior does not depend on sincere intention and evaluation of motives alone; but it must be determined by objective criteria, criteria drawn from the nature of the person and his acts, criteria that respect the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love; this is possible only if the virtue of married chastity is practiced with sincerity of heart.156
2370 Periodic continence, that is, the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods, is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality.158 These methods respect the bodies of the spouses, encourage tenderness between them, and favor the education of an authentic freedom. In contrast, "every action which, whether in anticipation of the conjugal act, or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible" is intrinsically evil:159 - CCC
My apologies if any readers mistook my post as official teaching of the Catholic Church. Talk amongst yourselves.