Well, it was in the bulletin.
For the past few weeks my pastor has been discussing marriage in the Sunday bulletin. He began speaking on the true meaning of marriage, followed by pastoral pieces in defense of marriage and what the Church teaches regarding the homosexual condition and why they can't get married. This week, Father discusses chastity in marriage.
Several years ago I remember getting into a discussion with my sister-in-law about chastity in marriage - I think JPII spoke about it in connection with TOB and my SIL thought the idea ludicrous. I said, no, no, no and tried to explain chastity in marriage. Like I really know anything about marriage... maybe I do, maybe I don't.
Without going into detail regarding my opinions on the matter - which may be all wrong BTW and I should never give advice to anyone on anything - I'll share with you what Father wrote in the bulletin. Although I must say before hand that I think the conjugal act permits far more than what more traditional Catholics might think. At the same time, I think NFP - Natural Family Planning - though denied as being an approved form of contraception poses some problems regarding the chastity in marriage thing, or me at least. It's still having non-reproductive sex, albeit open to life. That said, if single people are expected to refrain from sexual intercourse, why can't married people be expected to refrain from intercourse from time to time, instead of doing all the NFP calculations?
Chastity according to our state in life.
Chastity. Are the married called to chastity? Absolutely yes - and so too is everyone else. Chastity is one of the twelve fruits of the Holy Spirit that the Holy spirit forms in us as the first fruits of eternal glory. Teaching about the sacredness of marriage, Christ underlines the value of chastity within the marital state. Chastity within marriage consists of the temperate use of conjugal intercourse. [...] In the new Testament sexual purity is the model for the relationship between husbands and wives, analogous to the relationship of Christ to the Church. (Eph. 5:25) St. Francis de Sales wrote of a sort double chastity placed on the married couple: to abstain absolutely from any sexual activity when they are apart and to practice moderation when they are together. Within the moral order, chastity is concerned with the progressive integration of human sexuality for both celibates and married people. Chastity is a moral virtue and one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. - SourceI still think that scene in Meet Joe Black with Claire Forlani and Pitt is a beautiful expression of love between a man an a woman. "So [also] husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. 'For this reason a man shall leave [his] father and [his] mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.'" - Ephesians 5
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Warning to parents: Wives, do not fish for change in your husband's pockets in front of the kids - as my parents did - we know what you are doing. Do not fondle one another in front of the kids - we know what's going on. Do not make love in front of the kids when you are drunk - no matter how little we are - the moaning scares little kids. Oh - and don't - never mind.