See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient with it until it receives the early and the late rains. - James 5:7

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Why I closed comments, and other curiosities.

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Unfortunately I lost patience a day or so ago with an anonymous commenter on what was supposed to be a humorous blogpost which was misunderstood and became something of a source of mild contention.  I used snarky language assuming that I was once again being accused of being unkind towards a Zany yet popular priest blogger.  I actually did a second post that I knew would be interpreted in exactly the same way - just to be mischievous...  (quick, cute shoulder hunch and mischievous smile to punctuate!).  Anyway, I removed both of the posts because their original intent was lost in the bickering and I did not want to be uncharitable or contentious.  I'm ashamed I allowed myself to get into defending myself and the post, and very sorry I told the commenter to remove...  Well anyway - I am truly very sorry.
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However, that is exactly the problem with anonymous commenters and often why bloggers do not permit them - one sometimes does not know if they be friend or foe.  A name, an identity is always helpful in conversation, unless you are in a confessional, but even then the parties engaged have some idea of who is speaking and know what is being said is not confrontational.  I clearly state in my com-box I do not accept anonymous comments - and yet people sign in anonymously.  I will allow the comments if they are signed and/or not offensive - yet even then I sometimes let things through.  I do this because some folks have difficulty registering or understanding how to place a comment in the first place.  And because I'm nice.
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At any rate, I closed comments for a short while.  I insensitively mentioned in a post now removed, a separate reason why I closed comments, noting it was due to reader complaints about borderline personality disordered commenters high-jacking the combox.  (Laugh now.  JK!)  However, I do like my colorful characters and the crazy things they can say - so I wonder if that is such a bad thing in itself?  I know that on that Zany yet popular priest's blog, the good father has many followers and commenters who can be downright arrogant and contentious at times, which is why I can sometimes get a little annoyed after reading the blog and comments.  But, like I always say, I like the man and he has wonderful posts.  His wit and eccentricities I find amusing and enjoyable, his knowledge scholarly and informative, his status curious, his followers and watchdogs...  But I digress.
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All in all this blog is mine - I write what I know, what I think about stuff, my personal interests, likes and dislikes, and so on.  It is disingenuous to write to please others, or to collect fans and followers - commercial blogs may have to please their audience, but I do not fund raise or sell anything here - I'm all stocked up on crazy. 
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Nevertheless, I'm not sure removing a post after it was published is the best idea either, although it doesn't really matter as it remains somewhere in cyberspace and Google reader.  Of course the action itself demonstrates that I changed my mind, came to my senses, or that I simply did not intend it to come off as it had been perceived or misunderstood, and truth be told - guldarnit, some posts just aren't good enough to remain in my archives.  I'm aware some readers find this idiosyncrasy of mine annoying - so I will try to be less impetuous about posting and removing or changing content after publication.
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In the meantime, I have to become more thick-skinned - as do you, gentle readers (eye roll), accepting the realities of the internet as it involves those inquisitor types who are masters at taking things out of context or digging up any mis-statement from the past; they are low-life, watchdog informants, whose misplaced zeal compels them to apprise their masters of any disagreement or potentially unflattering critique.  Cults form so quickly these days.
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I will re-open comments sometime soon - after all, that is what makes blogging fun, that's why people keep coming back to check if anyone agrees with them or not.  It's just a blog people - we can't take ourselves that seriously.  So take the stick - just kidding - (quick, cute shoulder hunch and mischievous smile).

36 comments:

  1. What does this mean?

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  2. Nobody fights or is snarly or whacked on my blog. True, I moderate the first-time commenter but so far there's been nothing I wouldn't let through. It's all so sanguine which isn't necessarily always a good thing.

    I kind of had my fill of all that from my pastoring days. When I couldn't develop a thicker skin I found wearing an extra undershirt helpful.

    Being flawless is a tough gig.

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  3. Please don't take me the wrong way ? please please please ... I just realized that you have every right to misunderstand me . When I laughed my *** off at your paul newman/Henri newman post it was because I thought it was funny , not because I was laughing at you . I gave you an award because I think you are an awesome blogger , and with this cookie monster link , well, it's me trying to be funny and I mean no harm by it, honest :(

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  4. Just to be totally obnoxious, I offer this: "Illegitimus non carborundum."
    And you can tell the nasty anonymi:
    "Discedere ad inferos."
    And, to conclude:
    "Tempest bibende!"(and a certain caffeinated beverage!!)
    ;<)
    For translations:
    http://latinsayings.info/LatSayings3.php

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  5. That should have read, "NOT a certain caffeinated beverage!"

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  6. I think it's an acceptable practice to delete posts/comments, not that I would do such a thing. ;)

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  7. OH man!! I'm busy for a week and look at all the drama I miss! Sheesh and you took it all down so I can't go back over it! Terry, you so crack me up. I would've loved to have read it...now I just gotta imagine it, I s'pose.

    L&P,
    Gette
    PS, you know you can track the ISP addresses and/or location the snerts are trolling from, right? Your hit counter should tell you all that.

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  8. Jackie - LOL! Thanks very much!

    Adrienne - don't start... LOL!

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  9. SF - whatever do you mean?

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  10. Terry: Just do whatever you have to do; we, the "gang" don't give a rat's behind whether you're handing us "a stick" or whatever (I hate that word!)...
    delete, comment upon, vent your spleen...
    it's what keeps me, at least, coming back for more;
    God luv ya!
    (If I must confess this...your wit, wisdom and general "insanity" keeps me from going over "the edge" some days...really...I mean it!...were we separated at birth??)

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  11. Terry ~ So, on one hand you say that you aren't doing this for money, to please people, etc. And I applaud that! I feel the same way!

    Then you comment about trying to cut down on your "magic disappearing posts."

    So.... are you a people-pleaser or are you not? Hard line to walk to be in the middle.....

    ;-)

    Oh, and I walk that same damn tightrope!

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  12. Dear Mr D. "What does this mean?!"

    For the love of God Lar, have we learned nothing from the past 36 hours?!

    (This comment was written in an intended humorous fashion as no real bloggers were injured during it's construction- only dummies.)

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  13. Yes, belinda, I think we have learned something. We've learned that Mr Spock does not like having Captain Kirk twisting his ni---oh, never mind.

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  14. belinda: Praised be the God Lar!!:<)!
    As a mum of howmanyever chillens, you must be absolutely oblivious to "thin skin disorder"!!
    If I come back in another life, I fear I will be the mother of 13, with all the training I'm getting right now just trying to keep track of a bunch of adults (and several naughty and too-intelligent canines!)-!! Sheesh!

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  15. Mr.Larry, your gonna end up with a Vulcan nerve pinch served to you telepathically by you know who!!
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    Father, are children and adults really that different?
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    I come in peace Mr.Terry, I mean you no harm. ;)

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  16. Mr Terry: I offer this for your enjoyment and hope it brings a smile to your face...it always does to mine!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Db9FBvpx49M
    And no belinda: adults are no different than children...they're WORSE!!

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  17. Father your on to something here, Mr.Terry does enjoy the chipmonks especially "Alvin!!" He also likes Pat Sajack and honest people who are repentant.
    Bending over backwards to make someone laugh.

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  18. Terry: I love you no matter what...bald, whatever...I'm gettin' there...the white hair is gaining but who knows what will happen in the next few years...esp. if I...well...whatever(!)

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  19. So, is everyone sufficiently chastened?

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  20. Larry! LOL!

    Credo - I hope so - until next time... ;)

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  21. Man, I go out for an evening, come home and there's like 400 new comments. Seriously Mr.Nelson you should just delete this post

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  22. Owen: It's just another day in "Terry-land":<)!
    We're havin' a good ole time!!

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  23. I thought of it - seriously.

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  24. Closing comments?!

    No Mr. Nelson because it's fun for ME.

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  25. And Momma always has the last word (believe me, I've learned this the hard way!!)...
    Let belinda have her fun...
    it's just best that way:<)!

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  26. And Mr. Terry:
    We pray for a "Cult" here...just kiddin' of course...
    we have so many "stubborn Polocks" that belong to our Association that it is a practical impossibility...probably thanks to the good Lord Jesus...
    anyway...
    we're a bunch of nasty, renegade Catholic "wannabees" under the direction of the local Bishop (God help him!!)...we just attempt to love Jesus, His Church, and be obedient to our Rule of Life and our Superior.
    Scare enough of you off?
    Well, it should.
    This bunch is a scary bunch; but I'll tell ya'; they do love our Lord Jesus, our Holy Mother, and St. Joseph; and they love our Holy Mother Church and Her Tradition; I would die for all of this bunch;
    but they're a scary lookin' bunch!!
    LOL!!

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  27. Adoro - very good call. No - I really doubt I'm a people pleaser, which might explain why so many people get mad at me. Anyway, I will continue to remove the posts I don't like personally - which may reveal too much, for good or bad, and those post that may offend in charity. As you might have noticed, I usually always remove most of my music posts taken from youtube however - they seem to take up bandwith or something and the page loads slowly.

    Seriously, thanks for your good insight and pointing that out! God bless.

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  28. You say tomato and I say tomahto..does this mean my dance videos will no longer be posted on Abbey-Roads? I rely on it for revenue!

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  29. Cath - I'll still post the dance videos - don't worry hon. Say, do you think disco is passe? I get the feeling it's not as popular as it was.

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  30. +JMJ+

    My monitor is down for a few hours and I miss the kind of blog fun I live for . . .

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  31. Donna Summer was on "Americas got talent" just last night (she was awesome BTW) so those disco posts would be "A" okay!!

    See if you hold on to something long enough it comes back around in style! Way to go Missar T!

    Father, I tried not to have the last word but like a moth to a flame I couldn't resist. Honestly I tried.

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  32. Moth to a flame - my favorite Janet Jackson song.

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  33. What does this song of Janet's mean!?


    Oh,my gosh this post has ended where it began! Weird!! hahahaha

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