See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient with it until it receives the early and the late rains. - James 5:7

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Family vacation time.



Mystery and adventure make for fun get-aways.
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Once, when I was in 8th grade, my parents went out to do some errands on Friday night. They said they would be gone for awhile so I could fix supper for my little brother and myself - mom said, "You like doing that." (No, I really didn't.).
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They never returned until the following Sunday afternoon, asking as they walked in the door, "Anybody call?" Later, I finally asked where they had been; they explained they needed a little vacation. Parenting can be very difficult.
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The End.

13 comments:

  1. If my adult children did this kinda crap ,the fecal matter would hit the rotating device. I would have to confess excessive anger to my Priest.My blood began to boil just reading this.

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  2. Georgette1:06 PM

    Terry, is that your mom in the photo? She was a knock-out!

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  3. "Why do you keep focusing on this subject?"

    LOL!

    Um, Belinda, yep, ok, calm down.

    Well, Ter, is it ok that they came back or would you rather they just left and stayed gone? I'm sure you've thought about that.

    Love you. Prayers here.

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  4. My parents did this too, and then some.It is rude,inconsiderate, and thoughtless. I was worried sick.Mom thought it was especially funny that I was so worked up.Worse yet Mom told my Dad and their friends how funny I was acting.Then I was made fun of in a group settin.My Mom doesn't have the "Mom" gene, she never had empathy or a nurturing nature.She lacked compassion for her own children.Telling your children that you love them means little ,it is shown by example ,and the sacrafices that are made for them.I got the "Mom" gene,and her allotment as well.Sorry about your situation Terry,but I know that when this crap happens God calls us closer to himself.This is when God is at his best. Your Mom was beautiful. My Mom looked like Natilie Portman.

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  5. No - it's not my Mom - I just found a period photo on line of two people at a bar.

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  6. Belinda - I wonder if we are related?

    Cath - LOL! No - abused kids usually want to be with their parents - they feel terrible when they are abandoned. But don't start feeling sorry - it is all water under the damn bar stool! LOL!

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  7. Terry, could be, Dad wasn't always faithful either.

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  8. My older sister once told me that if our mother was an animal in the wild she would have eaten us!

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  9. Wounded people who become parents pass on the woundedness. You have dealt with the woundedness beautifully, Terry.

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  10. Or Mr. doughboy ,they go overboard the opposite way. I tend to smother my kids, ya know ,what are you doing,where are you going ,how do you feel? Are you hungry, cold , too hot? I tell them, you know that your loved ,and wanted don't you ? They say okay , whatever Mom then roll their eyes. My little darlings are screwed up in their own special way.I received them as defective parcel from the almighty.

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  11. My dad has told me lots of stories about his mom and step-dad leaving him and his sister to go to Havana for a few dayswhen he was about 10 and his sister 8. He was stealing food at one point because the fridge was empty. I can't believe that a parent can't tell how damaging that is to a kid.

    I've often said that without children most of us would never be able to fathom what God's love is like, but there are some parents that just don't seem to have that gene. Maybe they were damaged themselves.

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  12. Nadja - Yes they were deeply damaged - anyone who acts like that today is likewise deeply damaged - which is why we can forgive them.

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  13. Dear Mr.Terry, I think it is good to point out that even if our parents are not remorseful in any way ,or perhaps even delight in their deeds of the past ,it is crucial to remember that we are comanded to forgive them whether they deserve it or not,whether they ask for it or not,whether they are "healthy mentally" or not. The amount that we forgive will be the amount that WE are forgiven. So forgive BIG.I believe that this power of forgiveness transformed my Parents lives. This contributed to their conversion to Catholicisim at age 63.Thanks be to God.

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